[fill in the blank] in the time of Corona

Remember the classic book (and more recent movie) Love in the Time of Cholera? I’m afraid I don’t, as I generally avoid epic romantic historical dramas like…well…cholera. BUT I do know the title, and have found myself applying it to our current pandemic situation with varying degrees of humor and horror. So for anyone looking to write the next gushy bestseller (or any college entrance essay for the next ten years), feel free to use any of the following:

  • Anxiety and Depression in the Time of Corona
  • Lipstick Futility in the Time of Corona
  • High School Math Remotely in the Time of Corona (:Why?!?!)
  • Parking Lot Lunch Dates in the Time of Corona (:Why my car is never clean)
  • The Front Page in the Time of Corona
  • Legging sales in the Time of Corona (:up)
  • Partisan Politics in the Time of Corona (Yikes)

I could, of course, go on, but would mostly like to add my new actual favorite to the list: Mountains in the Time of Corona. 

As I was lucky enough to experience this one firsthand last week, let me just say that yes, it’s as good as it sounds. Here’s to a newly heightened appreciation for quiet natural places that get us “above” the fray of it.

I’ll just put these pictures here and wish all of you literal or figurative Mountains in the midst of your own personal Coronas.

Road Balcony Fire Pit Quakies

 

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Bon Iver

I crossed off a bucket list item and finally saw Bon Iver perform live this weekend.  The band has been a favorite for a long time, but despite my interest in seeing them play, I’ve never been quite able to make their times and locations—which were generally small venues in just out of reach places.

In this tour (for their new album i,i), though, they’re playing large arenas and setting their indie folktronica music to blaring sound and flashing lights. The lead singer of Feist, who opened for them, prepared us by referring to the impending show as “the magic carpet ride” we were about to see—which it totally was.  The arena full of die-hard fans could do little more than stare wide eyed and drop-jawed at what we were witnessing, maybe with some head nodding and word mouthing when we could manage it. The lights were captivating and the cutting edge speaker system brought the music right to you and through you. It was unlike any concert I’ve been to.

And in the center of the sound and lights and a host of other talented musicians stood Justin Vernon, lead singer and the band’s founder in his t-shirt and sweatband, singing and playing his guts out.

I admit, I love to see artists doing their thing, sharing their art. It’s crazy to me how vulnerable it must feel to be belting your tunes and lyrics to hundreds of people—and he did make comments about how odd and surreal it was to be playing an to an audience that size. His humility was endearing, and I couldn’t help thinking about his first album, the one that first drew me to the band, For Emma, Forever Ago.

Apparently, Vernon wrote that album after his life kind of fell apart. After his band broke up and his relationship ended, he retreated with a bad case of mono and some recording equipment to his dad’s cabin in Wisconsin.  There he wrote and recorded the series of songs that became the album.  The songs are original, folksy, sometimes ethereal, and often sound just like a Midwestern winter to me.

It was fun sitting in that huge arena seeing and hearing the music on that scale and thinking it all began in a winter cabin with one guy writing songs.  Making his art. Having the courage to put it out there. It inspires me when I sit in my upstairs bedroom on cold Midwestern days and write my own stuff, hoping there’s something worth putting out there.

His songs aren’t perfection; in fact, sometimes they feel a little chaotic, and his lyrics are only marginally decipherable.  But through it all comes these moments of genius—a swell, a chorus, a phrase that cuts deep or inspires emotion or connection, and I think, “Wow. This is art.”

 

Relatability

action-carnival-colorful-136412A few weeks ago, I decided to take my three kids up to the Wisconsin State Fair.  We’d never been before, and I was looking forward to giving them a chance to experience the things I’d loved at fairs as a kid: creepy rides, barns full of pristine livestock, deep fried everything, cases full of vegetables and handicrafts, and the noisy tones of cover bands playing on the thoroughfare.  I was not disappointed, and for my Midwestern city/suburb kids it was an absolutely original experience.

One of my favorite moments was when my son turned to me after a tour through one of the livestock barns and said, “I feel like such a city kid.”  This particular child of mine is a delightful person—but also an oldest child and teenager and is therefore a generally self-appointed expert on…everything. But after watching other kids his age grooming animals, cleaning out stalls, giving presentations, and generally preferring Wranglers and dusty boots to joggers and Vans, his world was turned on its side a little. As a parent there is little I like more than watching my kids have experiences that question their worldview a little.

It reminded me of this article I saw last year and (also this one it referred to) about relatability in literature.  I was interested in the idea that we place far too much value on how relatable a story is—and that more important than a character’s likeability or relatability is their ability to challenge us and force us to ask the tough questions.

Granted, some of my favorite characters over the years have been those I could empathize with, but the ones that have really changed my life are those not like me at all–the characters experiencing things I knew nothing about, who saw the world differently, who made me see my privilege or want to push myself in new ways.  I think it’s stories like this that help us see the humanity in humans we don’t relate to, and that is vital—especially in our current social/political climate. These are the kind of stories I’d like to read and, hopefully, write.

 

Tragicomedy

This past weekend I went to see The Winter’s Tale at the Goodman Theatre. It’s not a Shakespeare that I’m super familiar with, and apparently isn’t staged very often. This could be for a number of reasons (including the issue of deciding how to handle the famous stage direction “Exit, pursued by a bear”) but is most likely due to the play’s shift from psychological drama/tragedy, to happily-ever-after-comedy.  It’s a breach of genre.

I was curious to see how this production (directed by the renowned Robert Falls) would attempt to blend the two halves. The answer was: they didn’t. They went straight from the jealous wrongful accusation of Hermione, the resultant death of her young son Mamillus(who spends the first scene playing in a heavy bear costume), the banishment (and abandonment) of a newborn infant, the anger of Pauline and the too-late regret of Leontes to…comedic shepherds, thieving minstrels, young lovers, singing, dancing and sunshine. Even the set decoration changed dramatically. The first half—in Sicilia—was drawn in grays and blacks, straight lines, low lighting and ghostly reflections. But in the second half, Bohemia was all colorful, larger-than-life scenery: big fluffy sheep, a huge shepherd marionette, giant hay bales, and silly costumes. All this change happened in an instant—without even an intermission.

The contrast was at once absurd and delightful, and I was struck by the genius of it. Perhaps Shakespeare knew what he was doing by not putting this story in a genre box.

We’re big on literary labels these days. It’s more convenient when buying and selling books to put them in a category. I get that. But watching this play, I was thinking about how if we really wanted to portray life in fiction it wouldn’t fit into a category. Life is all in the same sentence both horrifying and hilarious, tragic and ridiculous.

I’ve talked before about my experiences with infant loss. I recall that after the first stillbirth of my seven months gestation baby girl due to a chromosomal abnormality, I developed a taste for comedy—sometimes twisted and irreverent. It occurred to me that having experienced such pointless tragedy it helped to be able to laugh at pointless things. Life doesn’t make sense, so why should art? After we lost our second baby to a different abnormality we joked with people that we were collecting chromosomal defects (who knows what we’d get next!).  I don’t think most people thought this was funny, but we sure did.

Similarly, when in in the play Antigonus was chased off into the darkness by a vicious bear, and in the following scene his death was announced by dim-witted shepherds, the two of them tossing his bloody severed arm back and forth in some morbid slapstick gag, I admit, I laughed. Moments before I’d been angry, sad, serious and the next I was cracking up. There’s a reason why it’s called comic relief, I guess.

Still, even though the end did wrap up tidily—Hermione actually came back to life (or was alive all along) amends were made, young lovers united—there was a sense that happy endings don’t erase tragic beginnings. As the cheery party of people exited the stage, the curtain closed on the spectre of young Mamillus in the background, staring out at us in his bear costume as a reminder that behind our happiest moments are sad histories, behind joy is loss.

Daily Reminder

I’m querying a new book right now. It’s great and dreadful.

This morning, I remembered seeing this random interview years ago with Jessica Chastain (and others).  An audience member asked what advice they had for aspiring actors and she said “You have to do something every day to remind yourself that you’re an actor.”

I think it would be safe to substitute writer (or probably any other artist) for actor. What is it about artists? Why do we need to be reminded who we are? You would think that based on the amount of time I spend writing, thinking about writing, and analyzing/revising my writing—that I would feel like a writer. But probably inherent in any kind of creation is self-doubt. We say I’m won’t be a real writer until ______” and then fill in the blank with any number of milestones—until I’m published, until I have an agent, until I sell x number of copies, until people I’ve never met start inviting me to speak at book clubs or actually show up at my author signings…and so on.

So, today I’m doing things to remind myself that I’m a writer. I’m sending queries and revising my manuscript and mentally drafting the next one. I’m writing this. I’m a writer because I have something to say, and I’m saying it. I’m a writer because I write.

Mormon Lit Blitz

57067548_sThis year I entered the Mormon Lit Bliz competition, and was selected as a finalist for my essay “The Back Row.”  I won first place! You can read my essay and many other excellent pieces here.

What do you require in a book?

heartThis week I started reading Sweet Tooth by Ian McEwan. While I haven’t made enough headway to fully recommend the book, I came across something I quite liked early on  when the protagonist, Serena Frome, describes her reading tastes.

My needs were simple. I didn’t bother much with themes or felicitous phrases and skipped fine descriptions of weather, landscapes and interiors. I wanted characters I could believe in, and I wanted to be made curious about what was to happen to them. Generally, I preferred people to be falling in and out of love, but I didn’t mind so much if they tried their hand at something else. It was vulgar to want it, but I liked someone to say ‘Marry me’ by the end. Novels without female characters were a lifeless desert. Conrad was beyond my consideration, as were most stories by Kipling and Hemingway. Nor was I impressed by reputations. I read anything I saw lying around. Pulp fiction, great literature and anything in between—I gave them all the same rough treatment.

For the most part, I share these preferences.  I have mentioned before, I think, that duty rarely factors into my reading choices.  Like Serena, I care little for names or reputations. I read across genres; want genuine, relatable characters; and I wholeheartedly agree that books/movies without women/girls (of which there are far too many, in my opinion) are “lifeless deserts.”  I am also admittedly if embarrassingly romantic.  I like a love story, and I rarely read (or write) anything without one.

While I do read very fast and skim unnecessary descriptions, I can appreciate “themes” on occasion if they don’t overshadow plot too much.  I also can set aside other preferences if the writing is particularly beautiful, or there are symbols to decode.  Otherwise, her statement could just as well be mine.  Can you relate to this as well?  What are your reading preferences?

Quote of the Week

FuzzyMy quote this week comes from a book I recently started called Thirteenth Child by Patricia Wrede–a favorite author of mine in my younger days.  This is a fun story about an impressionable young girl and her family set in a kind of magical alternate version of the American West.  The quote is an exchange that happens when the local teacher meets her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Rothmer, and a portion of their fourteen children for the first time.

“Pleased to meet you,” Miss Ochiba said.  She and Mama looked at each other long and hard, and then they each gave a little nod, as if they’d had a whole conversation and both had come away satisfied. “These will be your children,” Miss Ochiba went on as if there’d been no slightest pause. “They’ve been saying you have a good-sized family.”

“Any size that’s wanted is good,” Mama said, and then told her our names.”

This is a pretty simple quote, but stood out to me for a few reasons.  One is–I can’t help but gush–we had our third child, a baby girl (pictured) a couple months ago!  She came seven weeks early, but is doing really well, and we are very pleased with her.  Because she spent a couple weeks in the hospital, I spent a certain amount of time talking about her and our family to others, and fielded a lot of questions about why her brothers are so much older than she is (six and eight).  The questions were kindly meant, and sometimes I gave short answers, and other times explained that she was born after a series of losses for our family.

Either way, it has occurred to me over the years that there just isn’t one perfect mold–one exact formula for what makes a good family.  Good is, as Mrs. Rothmer points out, entirely a matter of choice, and, I would add, situation.

I also like this quote, and this book in general, because it deals with the varied effects of what “they’ve been saying,” or the words and opinions, often unwanted and unsolicited, of others. The main character, Eff, spends her life dealing with and being affected by what others say and how they treat her because of what they believe it means to be a thirteenth child.  Her experiences seem to negate the old adage about sticks and stones, and affirm that words can indeed hurt.

Coming from a social media world, where opinions are readily expressed and spread, I liked this reminder that no matter how many children you have, whether or not you have any, or are even married, or whether or not your family fits the “mold.” What you’ve got can still be good–and the only opinions on the subject that really matter are your own.

Quote of the Week: A Crack in Everything

10097511_sI came across a biography for Leonard Cohen recently, and since he was already on the brain (thanks to another great internet celebrity death hoax) I picked it up and started reading.

Only in recent years have I begun a tentative toe-dipping back into the waters of the biography after becoming mostly disillusioned with the genre during my school days.  Back then, any assignment to research some figure of choice  became a quest, in my mind, to find a hero–someone I could hold up as a standard, whose life philosophy I could adopt and whose picture I could hang on my wall.

Inevitably, I came up disappointed– Shakespeare was likely an adulterer with questionable authorship, Beethoven a moody, unfaithful misanthrope, and even the seemingly flawless Audrey Hepburn was sometimes troubled and possibly anorexic.  I became frustrated with what I deemed the disparity between the lives and the work of my favorite artists, and in the long run, decided I’d just rather not know their life details–instead remaining happily naive of the flaws and challenges of such persons of note.

It is only lately that I have returned to the genre–with a rather altered view. Therefore, picking up Leonard Cohen’s biography the other day had little to do with any quest for a hero.  In fact, I can safely say that not only am I no Cohen expert, but anyone would be hard-pressed to even call me much of a fan.  I am only vaguely familiar with his songs, and know next to nothing of him and his career as a singer/songwriter/author.  My interest in the man lies in the fact that he was responsible for penning, in a few lines of song lyrics, words that have not only been immensely significant to me, but have become a sort of life philosophy.  These are from his song, “Anthem.”

Ring the bells that still can ring

Forget your perfect offering

There is a crack in everything

That’s how the light gets in.

These lyrics express why my philosophy toward biography has changed over years.  I used to believe that the value in any life existed solely in its merits–its smooth, unblemished surfaces.  However, as Cohen so accurately suggests–there is no such thing as “unblemished” in ordinary humanity: “There is” rather, “a crack in everything.  And, not only are the cracks, the flaws, the mistakes inevitable, but they are necessary.  They are “how the light gets in,” the light of experience, wisdom, humility, redemption, and hope.

So, perhaps it is the pain of error, the carrying of personal shortcomings, the long weary wading through the muddy paths of life that allowed these people to create art–to forget their own impossible “perfect offering” and in pressing forward in a flawed, human way, to make room for something divine.

Spoilers? (spoiler alert)

19848907_sI came across this article in The Atlantic today.  On a side note, you may have noticed that I post frequently from The Atlantic.  Sorry.  This is one of the only periodicals I frequent on a daily basis…and they just have great stuff.  Expect to see more in the future.

Anyhow.  I saw the article about how story spoilers don’t really spoil stories and laughed, and for my part I mostly agree.  Confession time:  I am one of those people who really doesn’t have a problem reading the end of the book first.   It’s not that I just can’t wait, per se, to know what happens.  For me (and here’s another confession) I just feel no obligation to finish…or start for that matter…a book that isn’t worth my time.

So, occasionally, I will skim through the book to get a feel for whether or not I’m going to want to invest in this particular story.  Is the character I like still around in the end, or does she die?  Are things going to be wrapped up somewhat satisfactorily?  Are they finally going to kiss or what?  These are the questions I might like to have answered before I read something.  Then, once these burning questions are out of the way, I can sit back and enjoy the story (or put it back on the shelf as the case may be).

I admit there have been times when I have been disappointed at a spoiled ending.  Due to the fact that I am always a little behind the viewing curve when it comes to TV, and thanks to the wonderful world of social media, I learned of Matthew Crawley’s death in Downton Abbey long before I ever started watching season three.  And while I was momentarily disappointed at the spoiler, I don’t think knowing the end made watching the season any less enjoyable.

I won’t deny that there can be something pretty great about being surprised by a twist or turn, but at the same time, I can’t help but think that if the book/film/tv program is really any good it will be worth watching regardless of whether or not the final outcome is clear.

What do you think?  Does a spoiler really spoil the story?